Comments on: Are You Being Financially Bullied? Take This Quiz.

By: LT

LT — Sat, 11 Jul 2020 23:29:41 +0000

My husband is a classic financial bully and it appears at this point he is also a thief. I’ve made about twice what he has over our 20 year marriage and he’s handled the money through most of those years. I became disabled 4 years ago and all of a sudden it’s dawned on me now that the amount I was “paying” him is about 90% of my benefits that whoaaaa! How much have I “overpaid” you!?! This is the first month he is getting nothing and I don’t know how to go about this but it’s not going to be pretty. Thank you for validating the fact that it’s not just money trouble.

By: J. Money

J. Money — Mon, 18 Feb 2019 18:00:45 +0000

In reply to ji. I'm sorry to hear :( Have you tried counseling before? Would she be open to have a conversation about it?

By: ji

ji — Mon, 18 Feb 2019 14:11:42 +0000

I am Having a situation. Wife not ready for spend any money and says it is husbands job to earn and provide for familly. also always fighting for take her for international holidays. i have very little salary wth which barely handle monthly expenses. what should i do? any advise . thanks in advance

By: J. Money

J. Money — Mon, 20 Jun 2016 11:05:38 +0000

In reply to S Orban.

I’m so sorry to hear – that sounds horrible :( hopefully someone can chime in here with some tips for you! Check out the links I’ve included in the article above too in the meantime? Maybe something will help out?

By: S Orban

S Orban — Sun, 19 Jun 2016 18:42:47 +0000

I do not have a job my husband owns his own business and I help along with I do every bit of cleaning, cooking. Everything is in his name and he always holds it over my head that j don’t bring money in but won’t let me get a job. He does not allow me to drive “his” veh unless i ask permission and will not give me money if I say I need something he says he will go get it when he wants to what should I do

By: J. Money

J. Money — Wed, 26 Mar 2014 14:17:07 +0000

In reply to prosperousnotforprofit.

Glad you enjoyed it ;) There’s nothing inherently wrong with one person managing the money of the household completely of course, but if there’s anything against their will going on, or other non-niceties, then yeah – bullying is coming into play!

By: prosperousnotforprofit

prosperousnotforprofit — Wed, 26 Mar 2014 04:55:54 +0000

Super super interesting!
I often think specifically about couples where one person hands over their paycheque to the other person and I could never understand that has being a part of a healthy relationship but could never find the right words to describe it. Financial bullying is a really good start! And this simple quiz is so interesting and great to get people thinking!

By: J. Money

J. Money — Wed, 15 Jan 2014 23:23:04 +0000

In reply to theFIREstarter. Yuck! So blessed to not be in a relationship like that, sounds like a nightmare :(

By: theFIREstarter

theFIREstarter — Wed, 15 Jan 2014 20:26:22 +0000

I think I come across as a bit of a purchase checker sometimes when going through our budget but have eased off of that over the last few months. Hopefully I was never in the bullying category! I can think of a few couples I know where one person does fall into it unfortunately. I’m talking about, no you can’t buy that for £50 but I’m buying this for £500 type stuff. Pretty extreme! It’s tough to see but there isn’t much you can do but offer some well intended advice and support if needed.

By: J. Money

J. Money — Sat, 11 Jan 2014 01:31:43 +0000

In reply to Mike Carlson. Haha.. nice use of "we" there ;)